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Lessons about Love from Billie Eilish Songs 

The rising singer/songwriter Billie Eilish sent a jolt through the pop music scene with sultry, sweet, and sometimes sinister songs that contain beautiful and raw lessons about love. Billie uses her songs to express the good and the bad about relationships and taps into heavy emotions.  

Music can play a crucial role in emotional learning, helping us to reflect and learn about our own relationships both past and present.    

Here are some love lessons from Billie Eilish songs that offer insightful lessons about healthy and unhealthy love.

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Negative self-talk and the journey to find self-love

Sometimes the relationship we need to evaluate most is the one with ourselves. The Billie Eilish song “idontwannabeyouanymore”, also heard on The Voice, depicts a narrator talking to herself in the mirror, struggling with insecurities and self-loathing.  

While the song’s title clearly evokes this negative self-talk, it also has a positive spin: the narrator is breaking away from her past—“we’ve made every mistake”—and telling herself she will no longer be that broken person. The sentence “I don’t wanna be you” changes meaning throughout the song, from self-deprecation to self-liberation.  

Self-love can come when we are more mindful, aware of how what we are thinking and how we are feeling.  

Experiencing the fear and wonder of falling in love

The ethereal song “Ocean Eyes” performed by Billie Eilish describes the fear, hesitation, and beauty of falling in love.  

The narrator expresses awestruck wonder—“can’t stop staring at those ocean eyes”—and an overwhelming feeling of emotion—“you really know how to make me cry.” The road to a healthy relationship often involves feeling insecure, afraid, and uncertain. But it’s those first steps into love, feeling mesmerized and vulnerable, that lead you on a wonderful journey. 

Grappling with heavy emotions as you work through complications in a relationshipwhen

Let’s face it—most relationships are complicated at one time or another. The song on Billie’s new album “I Love You” describes two lovers who care for each other and emotionally wound each other at the same time.  

Having made her lover cry, the narrator describes her own inner turmoil as she croons “I love you and I don’t want to.” Having allowed herself to be vulnerable—“Never been the type to let someone see right through”—the narrator ultimately admits, “I can’t escape the way I love you”. If you are in a relationship, you are pretty much guaranteed to get into arguments.  

This Billie Eilish song gives us another truth lesson about love: real love is messy.  

Difficulty of finding closure in a relationship

Billie’s song “When the Party’s Over” describes a narrator struggling to move on from her relationship.  

Though she dislikes the quiet at home, she has “learned to lose” her partner and asks, “Let’s just let it go. Let me let you go.” Yet she still intends to call them after the party. Relationships can be difficult to move on from.  We struggle with a suddenly quiet house compared to the lively interactions and communication in a relationship.  

This song captures the emotional roller coaster of going back and forth as the narrator tries to put some distance between herself and her partner. 

Hopefully we’ve inspired you to put on some Billie Eilish songs and reflect on these love lessons! ​

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​Pride Gifts for All Your Loved Ones

Celebrate pride year-round with these thoughtful LGBTQ gifts for all your loved ones. Whether you want to send love to a romantic partner or show support to your gay best friend, these pride gifts say, “I love you and I’m proud of you.” Pride Month is an annual celebration in June, to commemorate the 1960 Stonewall Riots (also known as the Stonewall Uprising) in Greenwich Village, New York. These riots served as a catalyst for the gay rights movement in the United States. Today we celebrate activists’ efforts with Pride and embrace our authentic selves. This Pride Month, spread the love with fun and unique presents for all your loved ones! ​

Pride Gift List

​Hydro-Dipped Rainbow Shoes

Send them bright, rainbow vibes with handmade, custom shoes they can wear year-round! Hydro-dipping is a viral phenomenon and we can see why. This unique process turns your boring sneakers into a prism of colors. Just purchase their favorite pair of shoes in white and get dipping. Besides how cool they look, your gay bestie or partner will also appreciate the time and effort that went into making them! Rainbow gifts are especially perfect for all your LGBTQ friends.

Pride Month TikTok Video

Pride gifts don’t have to cost a thing! Show your loved ones how much you care by sending them a fun TikTok video they can play over and over. Get your friends involved and make a surprise video of love and support.

Book of Us®

Show your romantic partner how much you love them with the personalized Book of Us! This custom book is a unique, creative way to say, “I love you, now and always.” Customize this pride gift with your names, two illustrated characters that resemble you both, and loving messages. You can write about your love story on the back cover and even customize the book title—theme it to Pride Month with titles like “Happy Pride! 4 Years Together” or “I’m Proud to Love You.” Express your love and gratitude to a partner with a gift that shows all the ways you spend time together. Book of Us also supports the One Love Foundation, so you can feel good knowing your pride gift gives back!

Coming Out Support Package

For your friend who’s just come out, give him or her a care package of goodies that celebrates their big announcement. This gift basket could include: calming tea and bath salts (for those who need to de-stress after making such a huge life decision), an journal full of inspirational quotes, rainbow-colored candy, and a picture frame of you both—a constant reminder that you are proud to be their friend.

Meditative Yoga Class

Yoga is a series of empowering poses that takes you on a journey to self-love. Both meditative and strengthening, a yoga class guides you to find a peaceful relationship with your body—finding self-compassion and self-love. Pride Month is likewise a time to embrace your authentic self and to radiate your power and self-acceptance. This Pride gift is a joyful activity you can do together—even remotely if the class is online—bringing you even closer as friends or partners.

Rainbow Heart Cross-Stitch

Give them a gift from the heart with a cross-stitch hoop that beautifully displays a rainbow heart. Perfect for the home décor lover, this lasting gift can be hung on the wall or placed on a bedside table.

Rainbow Flower Bouquet and Glitter Cupcakes

Wish happy Pride to the LGBTQ person in your life with a colorful bouquet and edible sparkles! Arrange flowers in rainbow colors and tie the stems together with rainbow ribbon. Bake confetti cupcakes and add edible glitter to your frosting for a sparkalicious treat.

Pride Month is a time to show love and celebrate. Spread the love to your LGBTQ community with gifts from the heart. ​

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Resources:

https://www.history.com/topics/gay-rights/the-stonewall-riots ​

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How to Live Your Best Life Right Now

If you’re looking for ways to live your best life right now, these tips will help you embrace love and happiness. There’s no time like the present to start living your life to the fullest! Don’t settle for less. You deserve the very best. Life is an experience that you can create. Do you feel like you aren’t living every day excited and motivated? Do you get in a negative rut? If you’re looking for a change, these life tips will help you move forward in a positive direction.

Give yourself an hour in the morning, an hour at night.

Everyone needs a little “me time.” Do whatever you like best an hour in the morning and an hour at night. Set aside that time—set up an alarm on your phone if you need the reminder. People often get the most done early in the morning. Get up a little earlier and accomplish something for YOU: meditate, work out, journal, listen to music, sip coffee while watching an episode of your favorite TV show. In the evening, do the same but switch up the activity: read a book, listen to a podcast, clean a bedroom or bathroom, cook a favorite meal, chat with a friend, play a computer game, enjoy an at-home mud mask facial. Whatever you want! It’s important to spend time on yourself—you deserve it!

Take social media breaks.

Social media can be a fun, creative outlet to connect with friends. But it’s also the source of mean comments, tragic news stories, and brag posts. Take a break from social media each week, and spend time connecting with family and friends in person. While it’s important to stay in tune with news and events, it’s equally important to have some “breathing time.” Disconnect from your devices for a while. Get outside and engage with nature. Research has shown that spending time in nature helps relieve stress and anxiety. Ditch the tech for a bit and escape the social media “noise” with a relaxing nature walk.

Go on a bucket list adventure.

If you want to start living your best life, go on that crazy travel adventure you’ve always wanted! We get it—life gets in the way. It’s so easy to put off that big trip and stick it in the “someday” folder. But travel is often the ultimate “reset,” giving you time to unwind and re-energize. Visiting a new place can be the exciting change you need. Cross a long-awaited trip off your bucket list and live to your fullest right now!

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Make someone else happy.

Nothing gives you a bigger boost of joy and love than making someone else happy—without expecting anything in return. Think of small things you can do to brighten the day of those around you. Send a video message to a friend. Compliment a neighbor. Pay for the person’s coffee behind you in line. Create a personalized book for a loved one, with loving messages, photos, and personalized characters that resemble you both! The Book of Us™ is a special keepsake that delivers joyful smiles. These small acts of kindness will put you on a path to living your best life right now!

Start or resume hobbies that you love.

Begin fun activities that you’ll love doing on a regular basis! People often mock the phrase “I can’t adult today” but #adulting is hard! Responsibilities mount, and we often abandon hobbies or activities in order to multitask everything else. Oh for the college days with a cafeteria full of prepared meals, a two-day class schedule, and a dorm bathroom that someone else cleans! But now is the time to pick up your violin and start playing again; take up crocheting or cross-stitching; resume your favorite college sport (maybe join a community team); or set aside time to read every week. Living your best life means doing things that you love!

Stop worrying what everyone thinks about you.

It’s hard not to get in our own heads. But part of living your best life is focusing on you, loving yourself, and concentrating on what matters most. Nobody else is living your life. Only YOU can know what is best for you. When you start overthinking or focusing on others’ opinions, do something to jolt yourself into the present—take a walk, listen to music, sketch in a journal. A therapist once told me that when negative thoughts start flowing, tap your wrist or bounce in your work chair to redirect your brain’s attention. Stimulation and activity, however small, can refocus your mind. Meditation is also a great tool for centering yourself, shutting out negative thoughts, and finding peace.

Practice positive self-talk.

Loving yourself takes time and practice. The more you treat yourself as a best friend, the more you’ll welcome love and joy into your life. Beating yourself up all the time can be wearing. Try to repeat positive affirmations about yourself each morning in the mirror. Give yourself a hug—this one can be kind of embarrassing, but sometimes we need the physical act to really feel self-love. Your journey toward living life to the fullest begins with fully loving and accepting your whole self.

Forget resolutions. Make self-care life goals.

Resolutions can feel restrictive and demanding. But self-care goals are positive objectives with a focus on bettering yourself. Set goals you would like to achieve each year, but don’t put pressure on yourself to fulfill them. These life goals might include working out more, eating healthy / changing your lifestyle habits (take the word “diet” out of your vocabulary!), getting one-hour extra sleep a week, making an effort to chat with friends regularly, traveling—or something as broad as wanting to bring more happiness and joy into your life. By setting positive, flexible goals you can achieve, you’ll feel motivated and confident to make positive changes.

Release whatever (or whoever) is weighing you down.

Take the time to organize your life. It feels so good to clean and declutter your living space, getting rid of junk and useless items that are weighing you down. Donate clothes and shoes you never wear. Sell or donate that furniture you inherited when those items no longer fit your living situation or match your style. The same goes with people. Purge those toxic relationships that fill your life with negative energy—a relative that always makes snide comments or a friend that asks you for endless support without giving in return. Time to let it all go. Once you get rid of that dead weight, you can move forward with a free, clear mindset. ​

Resources:

https://www.heart.org/en/healthy-living/healthy-lifestyle/stress-management/spend-time-in-nature-to-reduce-stress-and-anxiety